Divorce is something no one wants to go through, but unforeseen circumstances may arise in which divorce is the only answer. When it comes to divorce, most people imagine couples that are in their mid-30s to 40s and have a family. However, the divorce rates for those demographics have actually gone down and those that are older and have been married longer have seen an increase in divorces. This type of divorce is called gray divorce. Just like with regular divorce there are factors that come in to play as to why it happens. Below are seven reasons as to why gray divorce has been on the rise in recent years.
Divorce can happen for a lot of reasons but when it comes to gray divorce, the biggest reason for splitting is that both partners have grown apart from each other over time. As you get older, your family gets older and one by one your children will leave for their own journeys in life. This usually causes the parents to have empty nest syndrome. With most marriages being made of work and raising kids, both partners were always busy. With the free time from the kids moving out or even retirement, you may realize you no longer know the person you married after having so much time with them.
Age can play a big factor in divorce and especially so in gray divorce as it consists of couples that are usually over the age of 50. Being around someone who acts old, by complaining about different ailments and body parts hurting, can make the other partner feel old. For some, if they see their spouse aging which reminds them that they are aging as well, and a lot of people agree that getting older is not fun. When this happens a divorce is agreed upon to go after a younger partner to hopefully “reverse” time for them.
Life is all about giving yourself self-care and after a while of doing the same things over and over again, some people want a change. One of the ways to spark a fire to get people to change is by seeking interest in a new special someone. They feel that this new someone will motivate them to try harder to change the way they have been living.
Money And Spending Habits
When couples are at the peak of their careers and earnings are coming in constantly, there is no need to worry about bills that need to be taken care of and reckless spending. This is because there is constant money coming in to cover up these charges. However, once the money flow stops coming in and couples are forced to live on a fixed income, it can take a toll. Couples may tend to notice differences in spending habits which could lead to a divorce.
Just like with any stage of a relationship, sex plays a big part and can even be the deciding factor in a divorce. As spouses get older their sexual appetites may differ. This could lead to miscommunication and frustration that could later lead to a divorce.
Longer Life Expectancy
As medical advances continue to come to fruition in today’s society, it leads people to have a long life expectancy. As we live longer, a combination of the above reasons and the possibility of an unhappy marriage can make one partner want to divorce their spouse. They start to think “why to spend the time I have left in an unhappy marriage?”
Active vs. Passive Lifestyles
The old saying goes opposites attract, but if the personalities are too different in a marriage it could cause some unhappiness. One partner will want to have an active retirement and go out and do and see all of the things that were talked about in the marriage prior but never did anything about it. The other may just want to relax and not want to go out. This butting heads of personalities could drive one spouse to decide on divorce as a solution.
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